Swinging in America:

Love, Sex & Marriage in the 21st Century

Swinging in America:  Love, Sex & Marriage in the 21st Century

Curtis R. Bergstrand and Jennifer Blevins Sinski

Drawing on an extensive survey of real people and over 40 years of research, this revealing volume proposes that a nonmonogamous lifestyle may be healthier for marriages than a monogamous one.

Is the monogamous ideal of romantic love—that one person can meet all of our needs forever—a realistic standard or an unrealistic fantasy? In fact, significant social science research suggests that the standard of monogamy has become a destructive force both on marriages and parenting, and that nonmonogamous relationships actually provide a more viable blueprint for relationships today.

Based on an exhaustive survey into the lives of real people, Swinging in America: Love, Sex, and Marriage in the 21st Century concludes that nonmonogamous relationships such as swinging and polyamory offer a new blueprint for combining sex and love—one that may prove more in line with the way people actually live their lives in our society.

Swinging in America begins with what we know about swingers and the swinging lifestyle, based on personal narratives and over 40 years of sociological research comparing swinging and non-swinging couples on factors such as personal happiness, marital satisfaction, psychological stability, and personal values. The second half of the book explores the historical rise and contemporary decline of monocentrism—the sexually monogamous marriage as the organizing principle underlying our culture—and the implications of this decline for new nonmonogamous relationships and marriages.

  • Includes data from a national survey, conducted by the authors, of 1100 swingers in the United States
  • Offers first-person accounts from people in the swinging lifestyle
  • Provides extensive bibliographies after each chapter documenting sources of information discussed in the text
  • Lists a comprehensive index of terms and topics
  • Centers on the largest survey of swingers ever undertaken, comparing married swingers to a national scientific sample of married nonswingers on 40 questions about their lives
  • Offers an alternative psychological theory of human development that does not define the desire for nonmonogamous relationships as pathological or immature
  • Reveals some surprising facts about swingers, such as people who swing tend to be white, middle class, Republican, and career professionals
  • Shows how U.S. Supreme Court decisions going back 150 years have a hidden bias favoring monogamy
  • Imprint: Praeger
    Publication Date: 11/2009
    Pages: 192
    Volumes: 1
    Size: 6 1/8x9 1/4
    Format   Price     ISBN-13
    Print   $44.95   978-0-313-37966-6
    eBook   Call for price   978-0-313-37967-3